The Psychology of Change
By Fred Macoukji, PhD
Growth doesn't feel the way we think it will.
We plan for the opportunity. We don't plan for the disorientation.
Even the most driven professionals — people who wanted the change — can find themselves feeling unsettled when it arrives. That's not weakness. That's neuroscience.
Our brains are wired to treat uncertainty as a threat. When norms shift, roles evolve, or the firm you work for starts becoming something new, your nervous system responds with resistance, hypervigilance, or a quiet anxiety you can't quite name.
And that’s the crux of it; the not knowing. Having seen this across many organizations, I can confidently say most companies don’t manage change well. Left in the dark, in high-performance environments, many people resort to the following reactive behaviors:
📋 Over-controlling what you can manage because so much feels out of your hands
🔇 Pulling inward just when visibility matters most
🔄 Doubling down on old ways of working that feel safe, even when they no longer serve you
The good news? Awareness is the first move.
When you can name what's happening — this is my brain responding to uncertainty, not a signal something is wrong — you create just enough distance to choose your response rather than react from it.
Three ways to find stable footing:
🏷️ Name it specifically. Not "I'm stressed" but "I'm uncertain about my role here." Precise labeling reduces intensity and moves you from reaction to reflection.
🏛️ Build your sphere of control. Sort your stressors into three buckets — I control this, I can influence this, this is outside my hands — and focus your energy on the first two. It's not resignation; it's efficiency. Less rumination, more high-impact action.
🎯 Take one small action. Anxiety thrives in passivity. Forward motion, even minor, restores agency and interrupts the spiral.
Growth is rarely comfortable at the inflection point. That discomfort isn't a warning sign — it's often proof you're exactly where you need to be.
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What's one moment of change that ended up being more valuable than you expected? 👇
Fred Makcouji, PhD is an executive coach and talent leader based in Brooklyn, NY.